The human Magnet Syndrome book cover
The human Magnet Syndrome book cover

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Self-Love Recovery Retreat

September 9th to 11th, 2022

After a much-needed break, Ross Rosenberg and The Self-Love Recovery Institute are excited to announce the resumption of The Self-Love Recovery Intensive Weekend Retreats! Unlike the first eight retreats, this and the following retreats will only include six guests. The decision to reduce the participants by 50% will allow for an intimate, intense, meaningful, and ultimately practical experience.

Expect Ross to shake up what you know about Self-Love Deficit Disorder™/SLDD (codependency) and either keep or put you on a path to Self-Love Recovery™. Each participant will learn more about their trauma, shame, and pathological loneliness and what triggers the addictive impulse to remain in toxic relationships with pathological narcissists. In addition, all participants will be individually encouraged to connect to the seldom expressed emotions that keep them mired in the dysfunctional muck of their Human Magnet Syndrome driven relationships.

About the Book

The Human Magnet Syndrome completely rewrites what we know and understand about codependency and narcissism. This break-through book has sold over 150,000 copies and is published in 12 languages. It is a codependency staple for both mental health professionals and the clients they help. Its success is the driving force behind his YouTube channel’s success, which has accumulated over 22 million views and 230,000 subscribers.

The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Trap is a complete rewrite of Rosenberg’s 2013 version. It includes over 125 pages of new material. The book explains why people are magnetically and irresistibly drawn together, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible unconscious relationship force. It explains relational “chemistry” and why its irresistibly alluring and seductive “love force” is impossible to avoid. Codependents and pathological narcissists simply cannot avoid HMS’s inevitable dysfunctional opposite match-up. What starts off as the codependent’s dream “soul mate” almost always transforms into their nightmare “cellmate.”

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Book Excerpt





Wendy T Behary

Author & Expert on Narcissism

"...this will treat the reader to an invaluable body of knowledge and experience … with a treasure trove of useful tools and tips. Ross generously contributes a well-crafted and relevant resource for healing…demonstrating a means for transforming painful lifelong patterns into meaningfully healthy ones."


Harville Hendrix

Author & National Couples Counseling Expert

"Why and how people select partners is a...mystery...Rosenberg opens the dark side of romantic attraction to the light of analysis and offers the tragic narcissist/codependent lovers a well-lighted path to understanding and healthy relating."


Jonice Webb, PhD

Author and Psychology Today blogger

"Ross not only identifies and names the HMS, he also describes it in a personal, colorful, engaging way, sharing much of his own personal story to bring it to life. [his first book] has been in the waiting room of my psychotherapy practice for years. I can’t wait to offer the new edition … as a resource for understanding and healing."


Lisa A Romano

Author, Certified Life Coach and YouTube Sensation

"Ross...understands the codependent and narcissistic dynamic. His latest work is even more concise, informative, and comprehensive. If you are struggling with codependency...this book will be of great value to you. If you are a mental health professional...this book will serve as a great resource."