The Observe Don't Absorb Technique allows the SLD to maintain control. I call it Observe Don’t Absorb as I teach my clients to artificially "detach" from the narcissist....
Feelings describe our emotional reactions to the events, people, and conditions we experience in our lives. Every feeling we experience is real, whether the experiences that preceded them were real, exaggerated, or distorted. Before I proceed with further explanations...
With each major advancement in telescope technology, humankind’s vision and subsequent understanding of our universe has become progressively more focused and defined. What was once a limitless expanse of darkness and sparkly dots, is now giving up its deepest...
Recovery from Self-Love Deficit Disorder/codependency cannot be rushed. Many of us have lived in or currently live in a metaphorically dilapidated and dangerous home that fools us into believing it protects us from the risk of harm and danger. As...
Like everything else in their lives, pathological narcissists need to be parents so they can feel good/better about themselves. Despite their public proclamations, everything is always about themselves, and never the child. Having a child allows them to fictionally repackage their...
The inherently dysfunctional “codependency dance” requires two opposite but balanced partners: a pleasing, giving codependent and the needy controlling narcissist. Like a champion dance partnership, the dancing roles are perfectly matched: the leader needs the follower and vice versa....
Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness The aim of this article is to neither shame nor blame codependent parents who participate in their family’s dysfunction but rather to provide codependency recovery-specific information as...
Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness The following content is derived from “The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap” (2022) WHEN YOUR DISORDER IS A JOKE“What’s in a name?”...
Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness Go to the mirror now. Look courageously deep within yourself. There’s a little you, the child you used to be, frozen inside you. She or he disappeared...
Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness As a psychotherapist and recovering codependent, I have come to understand the toxic and antithetical influence that guilt has on a Self-Love Deficient (SLD)/Codependent seeking recovery. Although there...
She drives a Mercedes, he rides a Harley; she’s an athlete, he’s a bookworm; she’s a Republican, he’s a Democrat… Have you ever wondered why some of us have personal friends whom we appreciate, like, or even love, but...