The Relationship Compatibility Continuum

Using simple graphics and math, Ross Rosenberg’s Relationship Compatibility Continuum explains and quantifies the unconscious and reflexive attraction between two people in a relationship. The graphic explains why people are drawn to a certain type of oppositely attractive partner (not just codependents and narcissists). It intuitively accounts for why so many people remain in unhappy and dysfunctional relationships despite feeling lonely, frustrated, or resentful. Similarly, it explains why some people tend to repeat their dysfunctional relationship choices despite wanting something different.

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Excerpt from Chapter Five of “The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap,” published in 2018. Find the book at Self-Love Recovery Institute:

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC
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Ross Rosenberg

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is an international codependency, narcissism, trauma, and sex& love addictions expert who provides psychotherapy, training and consultation services. Ross is a keynote speaker and trainer, presenting in 27 states and 3 countries. He owns Advanced Clinical Trainers and Clinical Care Consultants, an Arlington Heights IL counseling center. He wrote the best-selling book, "The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us." Ross’s YouTube channel contains 75 instructional/educational videos, which have over 2.6 million views and amassed 24,000 subscribers. He has been on ABC Late Night, a ABC "Swiped" documentary, Fox News and WGN News. His work has been featured in the Chicago Tribune & Publishers Weekly and he blogs for The Huffington Post, &

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