From Ross Rosenberg’s book The Human Magnet Syndrome, quotes on Narcissistic Abuse, Covert Narcissists and their victims.
Covert narcissists are masters of disguise—successful actors, humanitarians, politicians, clergy members, and even psychotherapists—who are beloved and appreciated, but are secretly selfish, calculating, controlling, angry, and vindictive.
Covert Narcissists, like professional actors, are talented at pretending to be someone they are not. If people could see behind their charming and likable “masks” they wouldn’t be able to steal, exploit and manipulate their unsuspecting victims.
Narcissist abuse syndrome (NAS) is a chronic pattern of physical, emotional, and/or sexual abuse perpetrated by a pathological narcissist against weak, vulnerable and often gaslit individuals.
Narcissists, like pedophiles seeking defenseless children, carefully and methodically seek, and then groom, victims who are lonely and who lack self-confidence, self-esteem, and social supports.
Narcissists seize upon anyone in a crowd who appears isolated from others or whose loved ones, despite their protective and loving pronouncements, are uninterested in them and/or absent.
Narcissist perpetrators have a “nose” for codependent victims who are naturally oblivious to their scheming, manipulative and gaslighting ways.
Codependents or SLDs get lost in the “soulmate fog” of a new relationship, where they blindly fall prey to seemingly beautiful, charming, and ever so adorable, narcissistic invaders.
Victims of narcissistic abuse are either unable to or believe they are unable to end the abuse and/or the relationship because of the uncertainty about the true dangerous nature of the abuser.
Victims of narcissistic abuse feel frozen in their dysfunctional relationships for fear of upsetting or disappointing friends and family.
Fear of humiliation, shame and disappointment keeps the victims of narcissistic tethered to their harmful narcissist. Passive aggressive, highly manipulative and sociopathic Covert Narcissists are virtually impossible to detect because of their “talent” at manipulation of their victim’s environment and mental health.
Codependency or Self-Love Deficit Disorder withdrawals make leaving a narcissist virtually impossible. Pathological loneliness, the absolute worst withdrawal symptom, emotionally incapacitates the would-be escapee.
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