It Is Never Too Late Too Be The Person You Should Have Been (A Poem)

Poem by Ross Rosenberg

Written by Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC
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Go to the mirror now. Look courageously deep within yourself.

There’s a little you, the child you used to be, frozen inside you.

She or he disappeared a long time ago

because the harm they suffered was simply unbearable.

To be released from the shackles

of Self-Love Deficit Disorder,

you have to explore the darkest

and most hidden areas of your life,

while braving the terrifying obstacles

that were strategically placed in front of you.

Finding this child

is equivalent to discovering yourself.

You will have to dig deep

and summon every ounce of courage

and strength you have that,

until this moment,

you were convinced you didn’t.

The decision is yours:

remain in your predictable

but perpetually dysfunctional life,

or take the frightening “road less traveled.”

This journey is the only way to reunite

with your lost innocence

and birthright for joyful self-love.

You can make the right choice.

By Ross Rosenberg, May 30th, 2022

The title of this poem is a derivation from a George Eliot quote, “It is never too late to be what you might have been.”

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Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is Self-Love Recovery Institute’s CEO and primary contributor. His internationally recognized expertise includes pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. Ross’s “Codependency Cure™ Treatment Program provides innovative and results-oriented treatment.

Ross’s expert educational and inspirational seminars have earned him international acclaim, including his 22 million YouTube video views and 230K subscribers. In addition to being featured on national TV and radio, his “Human Magnet Syndrome” books sold over 150K copies in 12 languages. Ross also provides expert testimony/witness services.

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Ross Rosenberg

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is an international codependency, narcissism, trauma, and sex& love addictions expert who provides psychotherapy, training and consultation services. Ross is a keynote speaker and trainer, presenting in 27 states and 3 countries. He owns Advanced Clinical Trainers and Clinical Care Consultants, an Arlington Heights IL counseling center. He wrote the best-selling book, "The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us." Ross’s YouTube channel contains 75 instructional/educational videos, which have over 2.6 million views and amassed 24,000 subscribers. He has been on ABC Late Night, a ABC "Swiped" documentary, Fox News and WGN News. His work has been featured in the Chicago Tribune & Publishers Weekly and he blogs for The Huffington Post, &

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