Amazon Best Selling Book The Human Magnet Syndrome
The most potent of love potions, “romantic chemistry,” draws lovers into a trance-like experience that results in a steamy dance of infatuation, intrigue and sexual desire. Romantic chemistry, or the “urge to merge,” controls our rational mind, so much so that lessons learned and pledges made are neutralized in an instant. Although conscious desires, choices and preferences are crucial to the pairing of a romantic partnership, they play a secondary role to the forces of our unconscious mind. No matter how we try to fight our relational destiny, we still fall prey to our instinctual urges.
The irresistible and hypnotic allure of romantic chemistry creates what I call a “soul mate conviction.” What seems so “perfect” in the beginning often unfolds into a disappointing dysfunctional relationship. My book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us, explains why the soul mate of our dreams often ends up as the cellmate of our nightmares. It will also explain why Codependents and Narcissists invariably almost always fall in love with each other.