What is Gaslighting?

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Gaslighters implant narratives, or revised and distorted versions of reality, to weaken their victim, neutralize their defenses, and turn their own mind against them. 
Gaslighters implant narratives, or revised and distorted versions of reality, to weaken their victim, neutralize their defenses, and turn their own mind against them.

Codependents are primed for gaslighting by virtue of their childhood attachment trauma, the consequent relationship template and their life-long mental health and self-love deficit problems. 
Codependents are primed for gaslighting by virtue of their childhood attachment trauma, the consequent relationship template and their life-long mental health and self-love deficit problems.

A gaslighter makes the codependent victim inaccessible to anyone who could protect or rescue them, they convince them these people don’t care, love or want to be with them. 
A gaslighter makes the codependent victim inaccessible to anyone who could protect or rescue them, they convince them these people don’t care, love or want to be with them.

Gaslighters systematically manipulate a codependent’s environment so they are powerless to fight back, isolated from anyone who could help them, and convinced their gaslit impairment makes them inadequate and unlovable outside their carefully choreographed false, but realistic, relationship with their captor.
Gaslighters systematically manipulate a codependent’s environment so they are powerless to fight back, isolated from anyone who could help them, and convinced their gaslit impairment makes them inadequate and unlovable outside their carefully choreographed false, but realistic, relationship with their captor.

The gaslighter is feeding their victims loved one’s false information for the sole purpose of further alienating or severing the relationships. 
The gaslighter is feeding their victims loved one’s false information for the sole purpose of further alienating or severing the relationships.

Gaslighters are most successful when casting themselves as loyal, dutiful, and unconditionally invested in defending and caring for their victims.
Gaslighters are most successful when casting themselves as loyal, dutiful, and unconditionally invested in defending and caring for their victims.

A gaslighter seizes on staged moments by implanting a narrative to make the victim feel guilt for what they did, shame for who they’ve become, and to believe they are unable to control the “problem” on their own.  Over time, this scenario further inculcates them with insecurities and paranoia. 
A gaslighter seizes on staged moments by implanting a narrative to make the victim feel guilt for what they did, shame for who they’ve become, and to believe they are unable to control the “problem” on their own.  Over time, this scenario further inculcates them with insecurities and paranoia.

The scheming gaslighter chooses a problem that either did not previously exist, or was only a mild problem about which the victim was already aware.  The gaslighter carefully and methodically choreographs the victim’s environment, so they repeatedly experience the staged problem.
The scheming gaslighter chooses a problem that either did not previously exist, or was only a mild problem about which the victim was already aware.  The gaslighter carefully and methodically choreographs the victim’s environment, so they repeatedly experience the staged problem.