The Catch-22 of Gaslighting: Making the Effect the Cause

The song by The White Stripes, Effect and Cause, painfully illustrates the catch-22 trap that Pathological Narcissists ensnare their Self-Love Deficient/SLD (codependent) victims in.  In this song, the person tries to hold the gaslighter accountable, but he (or she) finds the strength to hold on to their own version of  healthy and accurate reality.   Gaslighting […]

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Smiling Skeletons: Releasing Trauma for Self-Love

SMILING SKELETONS By Ross Rosenberg Strolling dreamily down a familiar street in the direction of places long forgotten, I was obliviously drawn to my childhood home. Like a magnet, I was irresistibly pulled in the direction of my home, where lost days, weeks and years were anonymously recorded on a calendar that no one ever […]

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DROP THE BATON! From Rosenberg’s New Book: “More of the Human Magnet Syndrome” Published on Book (1/1/18)

 DROP THE BATON! From the conclusion of Ross’s new book, “Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap” Published on 1/1/18.  ADVANCED ORDER at   SelfLoveRecovery.com We must end the scourge of codependency, if not for ourselves, then for our children and our children’s children. As a husband or wife, sister or brother, friend, or for that matter, […]

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You Can Run, But You Can’t Hide (From Your Own Self-Love Deficit Disorder)

YOU CAN RUN, BUT YOU CAN’T HIDE, by Ross Rosenberg Breaking up, quitting or divorcing, will not, by itself, solve your narcissistic abuse problems.  Because the problem is within, not around you, there is no escape.  Therefore, when you separate from your harmful narcissist, run far away, but to where can protect that hurt wounded […]

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IT’S NOT ABOUT ME, IT’S ABOUT YOU! A Self-Love Recovery Institute Retreat Exercise. Expert

This video introduces The It’s Not About Me, It’s About You Technique. It is a creative solution in managing one’s insecure and self-love deficit driven thoughts and self-analysis.  Unfortunately, too many people assume what ever angers, disappoints, or annoys another person is their fault.  Codependents, or those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder, especially beat themselves up […]

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Codependency Anorexia: Are You Starving Yourself from Love?

Codependency Anorexia is a logical solution for people with Self-Love Deficit Disorder™ (SLDD) who are hopelessly addicted to dangerously attractive narcissists.  As a last-ditch protective strategy, the desperate codependent (SLD™) shuts down their innate and natural impulse to fall in love, thereby rendering them safe, but disassociated relational robots.  Although intimacy starvation provides a sense […]

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