Codependency Anorexia—Starving Oneself of Love

Excerpt from Chapter 7 from “The Human Magnet Syndrome:The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018).” Codependency anorexia occurs when a codependent surrenders to their lifelong relationship pattern with destructive pathological narcissists. The codependent often transitions to codependency anorexia when they hit bottom and can no longer bear the pain and harm meted out by their narcissist. Paradoxically, as it […]

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What is Gaslighting?

NAS is a chronic pattern of physical, emotional, and/or sexual abuse perpetrated by a pathological narcissist against weak and more vulnerable individuals. Because NAS victims typically lack confidence, self-esteem, and social supports, they are prone to feeling trapped by the perpetrator. The experience of being trapped may be an accurate assessment or a result of […]

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Gaslighting & Codependency

Gaslighting is a brainwashing strategy perpetrated by highly manipulative and completely or partially sociopathic narcissists who live secretly and undetected in our society. Like child molesters, gaslighters can “smell” prey, who are vulnerable to believing in their false altruism, affection, and promises of protection. Gaslighting occurs when the gaslighter systematically manipulates the environment so their […]

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Vitamin L (Love) Deficiency

Vitamin L (Love) Deficiency My Vitamin L(ove) Deficiency idea further illustrates the impact of that neglect and deprivation, or attachment trauma, on an adult’s future mental and physical health. This awareness represents the sum of the nurturing (LRC) children receive from healthy parents during their formative years. When parents unconditionally give Vitamin L, children develop […]

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Children and the Narcissistic Parent

“For a child to avoid severe attachment trauma, they need to be adept at a form of psychological gymnastics. This requires suppressing instinctual and reflexive emotional reactions such as frustration, anger, and disappointment while reacting in a way that makes the parent feel good about themselves. The child who succeeds at modifying their emotional reactions […]

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The Dance Metaphor – Codependent and Narcissist

To date, the words “dance” and “dancing” are the most significant and life-changing metaphor I have created. It explains the automatic and repeated attraction patterns occurring between codependent and narcissistic romantic partners. This simplistic but profound metaphor, eventually inspired the creation of a 6-hour professional training, which would be the backbone for the first edition […]

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Passing The Codependency Baton – How Codependency & Narcissism Moves Forward Generationally

TO WATCH THE VIDEO: CLICK HERE This is the first of a series of ten schedule videos that will be posted weekly that will highlight sections of my new book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap.” This video introduces Chapter 1: “Passing the Codependency Baton.” More specifically, it talks about the virus like […]

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