Excerpts from The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder Book Proposal

Excerpts from The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder Book Proposal Chapter 3: “CODEPENDENCY” NO MORE – THE SELF LOVE DEFICIT DISORDER STORY Discovery Phase V – Core Shame Pathological Loneliness At age 43, about two years after my humiliating second divorce, my life spiraled out of control and seemed be irrevocably reduced to […]

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Why Opposites Attract: Introducing The Continuum of Self Theory

Why Opposites Attract: Introducing The Continuum of Self Theory Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT Originally appeared in Counseling Today at http://wp.me/p2BxKN-3Vv The most potent of love potions, “romantic chemistry,” draws lovers into a trance-like experience that results in a steamy dance of infatuation, intrigue and sexual desire. Romantic chemistry, or the “urgeto merge,” typically controls […]

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The Goose Allegory: When Leaving Saves Your Life, But Breaks Your Heart

The Goose Allegory: When Leaving Saves Your Life, But Breaks Your Heart Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT I first came across this allegorical story about self-love, courage and risk 28 years ago when I began my psychotherapy career in Boone, Iowa.  The story is a chapter from John and Linda Friel’s 1988 book, “Adult […]

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Relationship Circle – Moving Closer or Further Away

This diagram will be in my upcoming book, The Codependency Cure: Self-Love Deficit Disorder Recovery. It was inspired my a dear friend Karen Kaplan who wrote the incredible book, Descendants of Rajgrod: Learning to Forgive. The Relationship Circle Diagram represents the fluidity of relationships. We can choose to “upgrade” or “downgrade” a relationship based upon […]

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“EMPATHS” ARE DIFFERENT FROM CODEPENDENTS

EMPATHS ARE DIFFERENT THAN CODEPENDENTS Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT Empaths Are Different from Codependents Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CACD, CSAT I have to be honest, I do not like when the term “empath” is used interchangeably with “codependent.” “Empath,” which has its origins in the spiritual and metaphysical world, was never intended to […]

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Codependency No More! Introducing Self-Love Deficit Disorder. SLD

Codependency No More!  Introducing Self-Love Deficit Disorder Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT 10/28/15   SELF-LOVE DEFICIT DISORDER – SLDD “Codependency” is an outdated term that connotes weakness and emotional fragility, both of which are far from the truth.  The new term should recognize the problem with which all codependents struggle: a deficiency of self-love. […]

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FINALLY, AN UPDATED and SIMPLIFIED CODEPENDENCY DEFINITION. Codependency Redifined

FINALLY, AN UPDATED and SIMPLIFIED CODEPENDENCY DEFINITION Regrettably, the term “codependency” has been overused, misused & often misunderstood. It has become a caricature of its original meaning. To the general public, the term now implies that a person is weak, needy, clingy & even emotionally sick. Like the term “dysfunctional,” it has been lazily & […]

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A Poem: Codependent Love. By Ross Rosenberg

Codependent Love Codependent love is illogical, transient and shapeless. It resists definition. Defies explanation. Good, bad, healthy, dysfunctional, long-term or fleeting. Here, there and nowhere It is just what it is. It is paradoxical. Pain beckoning hope. Sly like a fox. Pretending to be big, happy and permanent. It’s like a shiny new diamond Larger […]

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