On Becoming (On Self-Love Recovery)

ON BECOMING As you move forward in self-love recovery, you will discover self-love in small, gradual steps forward. You are the accumulation of your new self. You are the becoming of self-love abundance. Ross Rosenberg, 2017 www.SelfLoveRecovery.com        

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When Selfish Is Actually Self-Love.

  WHEN “SELFISH” IS REALLY GOOD It is GOOD for SLD’s (Self-Love Deficients or codependents) to be selfish. It is like learning to ride a bike. Doing something for yourself and not caring what people think is a dangerous proposition.  “Selfish,” therefore is good. The problem is the voices in your head have been lying […]

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Codependency Categories: Active, Passive and Anorexic Codependents

Codependency Categories: Active, Passive & Anorexic Codependents Excerpts from Ross  Rosenberg’s book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love  People Who  Hurt Us. Active and Passive Codependency As a direct result of the codependents questioning themselves about being a narcissist, I categorized codependency into two sub-types: passive and active.  Although all codependents are habitually and instinctively attracted […]

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Stop Trying to Change the Malignant Narcissist (Why You Should Never Give A Narcissist My Book).

Stop Trying to Change the Malignant Narcissist Published on PsychCenral.com By Ross Rosenberg, MEd, LCPC, CACD, CSAT ~ 4 min read I am so grateful to the many people who have told me that my book The Human Magnet Syndrome was life-changing. Having such a positive impact on the human condition is my teenager “gonna […]

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Excerpts from The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder Book Proposal

Excerpts from The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder Book Proposal Chapter 3: “CODEPENDENCY” NO MORE – THE SELF LOVE DEFICIT DISORDER STORY Discovery Phase V – Core Shame Pathological Loneliness At age 43, about two years after my humiliating second divorce, my life spiraled out of control and seemed be irrevocably reduced to […]

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Why Opposites Attract: Introducing The Continuum of Self Theory

Why Opposites Attract: Introducing The Continuum of Self Theory Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT Originally appeared in Counseling Today at http://wp.me/p2BxKN-3Vv The most potent of love potions, “romantic chemistry,” draws lovers into a trance-like experience that results in a steamy dance of infatuation, intrigue and sexual desire. Romantic chemistry, or the “urgeto merge,” typically controls […]

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The Goose Allegory: When Leaving Saves Your Life, But Breaks Your Heart

The Goose Allegory: When Leaving Saves Your Life, But Breaks Your Heart Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT I first came across this allegorical story about self-love, courage and risk 28 years ago when I began my psychotherapy career in Boone, Iowa.  The story is a chapter from John and Linda Friel’s 1988 book, “Adult […]

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Relationship Circle – Moving Closer or Further Away

This diagram will be in my upcoming book, The Codependency Cure: Self-Love Deficit Disorder Recovery. It was inspired my a dear friend Karen Kaplan who wrote the incredible book, Descendants of Rajgrod: Learning to Forgive. The Relationship Circle Diagram represents the fluidity of relationships. We can choose to “upgrade” or “downgrade” a relationship based upon […]

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