Codependents and Narcissists – The Dance Metaphor

To date, the words “dance” and “dancing” are the most significant and life-changing metaphor I have created. It explains the automatic and repeated attraction patterns occurring between codependent and narcissistic romantic partners. This simplistic but profound metaphor, eventually inspired the creation of a 6-hour professional training, which would be the backbone for the first edition of “The Human Magnet Syndrome.” Although I cannot recall exactly when I used these words effectively with one of my …

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Gaslighting and Brainwashing

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADCPsychotherapist, Author, Educator, Expert Witness Gaslighting is a manipulative mind and behavior control strategy. It is perpetrated by highly manipulative pathological narcissists who desire power and control over weak and defenseless victims. These predators prey on susceptible individuals who believe in their false altruism, affection and promises of protection. Gaslighters are most successful when they believably cast themselves as loyal and dutiful protectorates who are unconditionally invested in defending and caring for their beloved …

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Ross Rosenberg Quotes

These are some “Ross Rosenberg Quotes” for you to share, from his book The Human Magnet Syndrome.  Since the dawn of civilization, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible, unconscious romantic forces. This seductive, alluring and seemingly impossible to avoid love force is the Human Magnet Syndrome. It bonds oppositely-matched partners in a breakup resistant rollercoaster-like relationship. This …

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The Codependency Baton – Codependency & Narcissism

Codependency and Narcissism Move Forward Generationally I wanted to start my new book with a story about what made me codependent (or Self-Love Deficient). I started to write about what happened to me as a child, with regard to how my parents treated me. Then I started to write about their background. What about my mother’s childhood made her a codependent and what about my dad made him a narcissist. Then I went to the …

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Fused at The Wound. Are We All Walking and Talking Magnets?

. Excerpt from Chapter Six: Are We All Walking and Talking Magnets?   Fused at The Wound  A memorable synchronistic “God moment” occurred in my life about 11 years ago when I first dreamed of becoming an author who could change the world with my insights on codependency recovery.  Three days later, I received a small, plain package containing a book of poems from a person I did not know. The book, Iron Man Family Outing: …

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Foreword to Rosenberg’s New Book: Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap

  Foreword to Ross Rosenberg’s New Book: The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap The larger patterns at work in our lives can often seem mysterious, purposeless, and even incoherent at times, if not completely undetectable. But given enough time, a magnificent logic often appears in them. The story of how I came to write the foreword for this book is an excellent example of that. All the way back in 1990, I published …

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DROP THE BATON! From Rosenberg’s New Book: “More of the Human Magnet Syndrome” Published on Book (1/1/18)

 DROP THE BATON! From the conclusion of Ross’s new book, “Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap” Published on 1/1/18.  ADVANCED ORDER at   SelfLoveRecovery.com We must end the scourge of codependency, if not for ourselves, then for our children and our children’s children. As a husband or wife, sister or brother, friend, or for that matter, as a beloved member of the family of mankind, please consider joining my crusade to join the world-wide fraternity of …

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The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Next Generation Update

I am half done with the rewrite of the Human Magnet Syndrome. It is completely overhauled and reorganized. Not only have I made major changes and updates to the existing material, I also added a great deal of new material, including explanations, concepts, theories, case examples, and personal stories. Not only did I revised all of the books content, the new material is more intuitive, comprehensive, and unified. Due to the book being so different, …

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Self-Love Is So Unmanly! Ross Rosenberg on Narcissism, Addiction, and Self-Love Deficiency in Men

Episode 26: Self-Love Is So Unmanly! Ross Rosenberg on Narcissism, Addiction, and Self-Love Deficiency in Men September 7, 2017 Dan Griffin The Man Rules Podcast They’re sexy, they’re interesting, and they ignore you. Obviously, they’re your type.  Your intense attraction to this person must be love. So, you enter into a relationship. Soon, your dream lover morphs into a bit of a nightmare. They’re a bottomless pit of need– full of unreasonable expectations, vicious insults, and insane demands. Your own needs and wishes don’t …

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You Can Run, But You Can’t Hide (From Your Own Self-Love Deficit Disorder)

YOU CAN RUN, BUT YOU CAN’T HIDE, by Ross Rosenberg Breaking up, quitting or divorcing, will not, by itself, solve your narcissistic abuse problems.  Because the problem is within, not around you, there is no escape.  Therefore, when you separate from your harmful narcissist, run far away, but to where can protect that hurt wounded little child inside of you, who knows nothing about being alone and happy at the same time.  Without healing the …

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