Codependent Parent

Quotes By Ross Rosenberg Although the lion’s share of the blame lies with the narcissistic parent, the codependent parent also shares responsibility. It is an unfair assessment to reduce this complicated problem to a “good” versus “bad” parent dilemma. Both parents are on the same dysfunctional team. Both prime their children to pass the baton off to the next generation. “Many codependents have shared their anger, resentment, and even disgust about their codependent parent’s unwillingness …

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The True Love Poem by David Whyte

The True Love by David Whyte There’s a faith in loving fiercely the one who is rightfully yours especially if you have waited years and especially if part of you never believed you could deserve this loved and beckoning hand held out to you this way. I am thinking of faith now and the testaments of loneliness and what we feel we are worthy of in this world. Years ago in the Hebrides I remember an …

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Can a Codependent Be a Narcissist?

From the book The Human Magnet Syndrome. Over the last ten years, I have been asked more times than I can count, primarily by codependents, “Can a codependent be a narcissist?” Since these two disorders are opposite in almost every respect, it is impossible to be both at the same time. The dynamics in the relationship trigger a manipulated codependent to believe their needs, are less important, or secondary, to those of their narcissistic partner. …

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Understanding Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome: Ten Tips To Defend Against It

An Excerpt from The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) Lately, an increasing number of books, articles, blogs, YouTube videos, and social networking sites are focusing on Narcissistic AbuseSyndrome (NAS), also known as Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. Like most newly recognized and understood psychological or relational phenomena, descriptive and diagnostic data must be developed so it can be accepted in broader clinical/mental health circles. The more that is researched and written about it, the higher the probability …

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Borderline Personality Disorder: The Most Painful of All Disorders

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADCPsychotherapist, Author, Educator, Expert Witness Excerpt from The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) may be among the most stigmatized of mental disorders. Currently, there are rumblings in the mental health field about the negative implications of the term itself, as many consider it misleading and fraught with negative associations. BPD is often undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, or treated inappropriately (Porr, 2001). Clinicians may limit the number of BPD patients …

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Smiling Skeletons: Releasing Trauma for Self-Love

SMILING SKELETONS By Ross Rosenberg Strolling dreamily down a familiar street in the direction of places long forgotten, I was obliviously drawn to my childhood home. Like a magnet, I was irresistibly pulled in the direction of my home, where lost days, weeks and years were anonymously recorded on a calendar that no one ever saw. The house, painted anew, and the unfamiliar over-grown trees, couldn’t hide memory stained streets, where an emotionally desperate child …

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Codependency Anorexia—Starving Oneself of Love

Excerpt from Chapter 7 from “The Human Magnet Syndrome:The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018).” Codependency anorexia occurs when a codependent surrenders to their lifelong relationship pattern with destructive pathological narcissists. The codependent often transitions to codependency anorexia when they hit bottom and can no longer bear the pain and harm meted out by their narcissist. Paradoxically, as it occurs during a moment of clarity, the codependent comes to realize they are powerless over their attraction to lovers who …

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Narcissists Need To Have Children: The Good-Parent Narrative

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADCSelf-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness From The Human Magnet Syndrome’s  (2018) Chapter Eight: The Origins of Codependency  Like everything else in their lives, pathological narcissists need to be parents so they can feel good/better about themselves. Despite their public proclamations, everything is always about, for and because of themselves, and never the child. Having a child allows them to fictionally repackage their life in which their buried core shame …

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Self-Love Recovery Treatment

The Ten Stages Model of Self-Love Recovery Treatment The following is a condensed introduction of each of the ten stages in my Self-Love Recovery Model. The length of time to complete the Ten Stage Self-Love Recovery Treatment process is between one and two years, depending on many variables. Self Love Recovery Treatment – Stage One: “Hitting Bottom Introducing Hope | Hitting the lowest point compels them to do something bold, uncomfortable, and hopeful; seek help …

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Narcisismo y Codependencia – Ross Rosenberg

Ross Rosenberg es considerado un experto en narcisismo, codependencia, traumas y adicciones, a nivel internacional. A continuación, artículos y entrevistas en español. El Síndrome del Abuso Narcisista: 10 Consejos Para Defenderse Psicopedia – 3 septiembre, 2018. Últimamente, un número cada vez mayor de libros, artículos, blogs, videos de YouTube y sitios de redes sociales se están enfocando en el Síndrome de Abuso Narcisista (SAN), también conocido como Síndrome de Víctima Narcisista. Para más información visita: El Síndrome …

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