Covert Narcissists: Wolves in Sheep Clothing

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADCPsychotherapist, Author, Educator, Expert Witness Covert narcissists are masters of disguise – successful actors, humanitarians, politicians, clergy members, and even psychotherapists who are beloved and appreciated, but are secretly selfish, calculating, controlling, angry and vindictive. Covert narcissists create an illusion of selflessness while gaining from their elevated status. Although they share similar basic traits with the overt narcissist, i.e., the need for attention, affirmation, approval and recognition, they are stealthier about hiding their selfish …

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The History of the Term “Codependency”

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADCPsychotherapist, Author, Educator, Expert Witness To quote William Shakespeare, “What’s in a name?”  Well, Mr. Shakespeare, in the mental health field, quite a bit!  Correctly labeling mental health disorders is powerfully important to the person in their pursuit of seeking help to overcome their problems. Even with the potential for misuse, such terms are required by the researcher, educator, practitioner and, most importantly, the patient to understand, identify and seek help for a specific …

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Codependents Can be Manipulators. Active vs. Passive Codependents

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADCPsychotherapist, Author, Educator, Expert Witness New Codependency Categories: Active and Passive Codependents Codependency is a problematic relationship orientation which involves the relinquishing of power and control to individuals who are either addicted or who have one of the three emotional manipulation personality disorders. In other words, codependents habitually find themselves in relationships with egotistic, self-centered, selfish, and/or addicted individuals. Codependents are habitually and magnetically attracted to people who neither seem interested nor motivated to …

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Shame Excavation: Unearthing Toxic Shame

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADCPsychotherapist, Author, Educator, Expert Witness “Like moss, shames grows in the dark. Vanquish it by bringing it into the light” Shame is inexorably tied to the question that many of us will eventually ask ourselves, “Are we a human doing or a human being?” In other words, is our value and appreciation for and about ourselves determined by what we do (and how it impacts others) or by just who we are? Self-worth determined …

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The Continuum of Narcissism – From Normal to Pathological. Narcissistic Personality Disorder

From my training: Codependents and Narcissists: Understanding the Attraction For more information about Ross’s resources, seminars and workshops, write us at help@selfloverecovery.com or visit Self-Love Recovery Institute.

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LOVE ADDICTION, CODEPENDENCY AND INTERNET DATING

By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADCPsychotherapist, Author, Educator, Expert Witness For the love addict and codependent, Internet dating sites are the crack cocaine of romantic exploration.  Although the love addict consciously wants true and everlasting love, they are drawn to the exhilarating rush of new love, like a moth is drawn to a flame.  Their dream of being forever in love with a fated soul mate is inexplicably foiled by reasons that never quite make sense to them.  Love …

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The Will to Survive

Poem and Photo by Ross Rosenberg, 1996 The old oak tree stands tall but crooked. It’s cracked, coarse, creviced surface. reflects the assault of the seasons. The rain, heat and snow of seasons yonder grate at its surface with diamond sharp teeth. Digging in Leaving permanent marks. In defiance the tree stretches, Grows and moves skyward. Its roots reach around rocky obstacles Firmly anchoring itself the earth. Exerting strength and desire. Forcing its viability to …

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Ongoing Thoughts About Shame. By Ross Rosenberg

I am in the process of writing more about the insidious and psychologically limiting/damaging affects of shame.  As  I come up with more inspired thoughts, I will add them to this blog entry. Ross SHAME Shame is inexorably tied to the question that many of us will eventually ask ourselves:  “Are we a human doing or a human being?”  In other words, is our value and appreciation for and about ourselves determined by what we …

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The “Golden Rule” of the Helping Professions. Moods Magazine Article by Ross Rosenberg

The “Golden Rule” of the Helping Professions.  Moods Magazine Article by Ross Rosenberg View the article on Moods Magazine’s Website Adapted from the book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt us By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC It is a common belief within the mental health field that a psychotherapist’s competence is often compromised when they work with clients who share the very same problem that they have, but are neither …

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What Makes A Narcissist Tick: a Song

A comment on a modern plague. The other day I received an email from a man who listened to one of my YouTube videos about Narcissism/Emotional Manipulation.  He described that his healing journey from a narcissistic partner included writing songs.  This song, captures the mental and emotional capacity of a narcissist.  It is sweetly honest and painful.  I really respect Mr. Payne for his talented depiction of what what probably hurt him so badly. What Makes A Narcissist …

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