Codependent’s and their children quotes by Ross Rosenberg Most codependent parents do not wish any harm to befall their children. In fact, a majority will go to extraordinary measures to stop or mitigate the narcissist harm to or abuse of the children. Many codependents have shared their anger, resentment, and even disgust about their codependent parent's unwillingness to protect them and leave their narcissistic parent. They can recall numerous occasions when this parent could have protected them, but instead choose to either ignore the situation or rationalize it away. The codependent's inability to protect the children co-creates a toxic family environment in which the children are harmed, and their future psychological health is compromised. the codependent's obsessive-compulsive desire to satisfy the narcissist's needs, while also trying to control their behavior, depletes the energy, time, focus, and emotional resources that would otherwise be given to the children. Tired and beaten down, codependents often shut down and disconnect from their responsibility to protect their children and themselves. Although the adult codependent parent is harmed by their narcissistic partner, their codependency should not be considered a valid excuse for not caring for and protecting their children.