The Catch-22 of Gaslighting: Making the Effect the Cause

The song by The White Stripes, Effect and Cause, painfully illustrates the catch-22 trap that Pathological Narcissists ensnare their Self-Love Deficient/SLD (codependent) victims in.  In this song, the person tries to hold the gaslighter accountable, but he (or she) finds the strength to hold on to their own version of  healthy and accurate reality.   Gaslighting […]

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My Birthday Promise

Exactly one year ago I, I decided to look into the mirror and courageously recognize the real man staring back at me. In a moment of brutal honesty I was absolutely shocked at what anr who I saw. This supposedly happy and exceedingly successful person looked week, defeated and forlorn. His eyes radiated sadness, loneliness […]

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For Sale, A Painting from My Psychotherapy Office

SELLING MY BELOVED PAINTING from my psychotherapy office. I bought this original paining from an art gallery in Mazatlán Mexico about 8 years ago. Its a one of kind piece of art that captures the inner beauty and innocence of this indigenous Mexican little girl.  It was really love at first site when I first […]

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The True Love Poem by David Whyte

The True Love by David Whyte There’s a faith in loving fiercely the one who is rightfully yours especially if you have waited years and especially if part of you never believed you could deserve this loved and beckoning hand held out to you this way. I am thinking of faith now and the testaments of […]

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Vitamin L (Love) Deficiency

Vitamin L (Love) Deficiency My Vitamin L(ove) Deficiency idea further illustrates the impact of that neglect and deprivation, or attachment trauma, on an adult’s future mental and physical health. This awareness represents the sum of the nurturing (LRC) children receive from healthy parents during their formative years. When parents unconditionally give Vitamin L, children develop […]

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The Dance Metaphor – Codependent and Narcissist

To date, the words “dance” and “dancing” are the most significant and life-changing metaphor I have created. It explains the automatic and repeated attraction patterns occurring between codependent and narcissistic romantic partners. This simplistic but profound metaphor, eventually inspired the creation of a 6-hour professional training, which would be the backbone for the first edition […]

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