Understanding Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome: Ten Tips To Defend Against It

An Excerpt from The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) Lately, an increasing number of books, articles, blogs, YouTube videos, and social networking sites are focusing on Narcissistic AbuseSyndrome (NAS), also known as Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. Like most newly recognized and understood psychological or relational phenomena, descriptive and diagnostic data must be developed so it can be […]

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The Most Painful of All Disorders: Borderline Personality Disorder

Excerpt from The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) Borderline Personality Disorder – or “BPD” – may be among the most stigmatized of mental disorders. Currently, there are rumblings in the mental health field about the negative implications of the term itself, as many consider it misleading and fraught with negative associations. BPD […]

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Codependency Anorexia—Starving Oneself of Love

Excerpt from Chapter 7 from “The Human Magnet Syndrome:The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018).” Codependency anorexia occurs when a codependent surrenders to their lifelong relationship pattern with destructive pathological narcissists. The codependent often transitions to codependency anorexia when they hit bottom and can no longer bear the pain and harm meted out by their narcissist. Paradoxically, as it […]

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The Good-Parent Fantasy – Why Narcissists Need To Have Children

From The Human Magnet Syndrome’s  (2018) Chapter Eight: The Origins of Codependency  Like everything else in their lives, pathologically narcissistic adults need to be parents so they can feel good/better about themselves. Despite their public proclamations, everything is always about, for and because of themselves, and never the child. Having a child allows them to […]

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Gaslighting & Codependency

Gaslighting is a brainwashing strategy perpetrated by highly manipulative and completely or partially sociopathic narcissists who live secretly and undetected in our society. Like child molesters, gaslighters can “smell” prey, who are vulnerable to believing in their false altruism, affection, and promises of protection. Gaslighting occurs when the gaslighter systematically manipulates the environment so their […]

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Vitamin L (Love) Deficiency

Vitamin L (Love) Deficiency My Vitamin L(ove) Deficiency idea further illustrates the impact of that neglect and deprivation, or attachment trauma, on an adult’s future mental and physical health. This awareness represents the sum of the nurturing (LRC) children receive from healthy parents during their formative years. When parents unconditionally give Vitamin L, children develop […]

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Children and the Narcissistic Parent

“For a child to avoid severe attachment trauma, they need to be adept at a form of psychological gymnastics. This requires suppressing instinctual and reflexive emotional reactions such as frustration, anger, and disappointment while reacting in a way that makes the parent feel good about themselves. The child who succeeds at modifying their emotional reactions […]

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The Dance Metaphor – Codependent and Narcissist

To date, the words “dance” and “dancing” are the most significant and life-changing metaphor I have created. It explains the automatic and repeated attraction patterns occurring between codependent and narcissistic romantic partners. This simplistic but profound metaphor, eventually inspired the creation of a 6-hour professional training, which would be the backbone for the first edition […]

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