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Self-Love Is So Unmanly! Ross Rosenberg on Narcissism, Addiction, and Self-Love Deficiency in Men

Episode 26: Self-Love Is So Unmanly! Ross Rosenberg on Narcissism, Addiction, and Self-Love Deficiency in Men

They’re sexy, they’re interesting, and they ignore you. Obviously, they’re your type.  Your intense attraction to this person must be love. So, you enter into a relationship. Soon, your dream lover morphs into a bit of a nightmare. They’re a bottomless pit of need– full of unreasonable expectations, vicious insults, and insane demands. Your own needs and wishes don’t seem to matter to this person at al l… So, you leave, right?

Well … Not, if you suffer from what psychologist Ross Rosenberg calls “self-love deficiency disorder.” Men struggling with it tend to be attracted to narcissists like moths to flame. They stay in relationships with narcissists, no matter how poorly they’re treated, because of an inability to recognize their own inherent worthiness. They feel, subconsciously, that they have to constantly prove that they are worthy of love by sacrificing their own needs and desires for the love of someone else.

 
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Nine Stage Recovery Model for Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Codependency). Ross Rosenberg’s “The Codependency Cure”

This  is the model that I  will be writing about in my upcoming book, The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder.

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Stage 1: Hitting Bottom (Introducing Hope)
Stage 2: Human Magnet Syndrome Education: Breaking Free from the “Dance”
Stage 3: Withdrawing from SLDD Addiction: Battling Pathological Loneliness
Stage 4: Setting Boundaries in A Hostile Environment. Courage and Commitment
Stage 5: Maintaining Safe and Secure Boundaries. Protection, Security and Self-Care
Stage 6: Resolving / Integrating Unconscious Trauma: Healing Attachment Trauma

Stage 7: Discovering Self-Love. Building an Internal Self-Love Foundation
Stage 8: Building an External Foundation of Self-Love. Achieving Self-Love Driven Relationships.
Stage 9: Shedding Self-Love Deficit Disorder. Becoming Self-Love Abundant

The Eight Stage Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Codependency) Treatment Model. Rosenberg Codendency & Narcissism Expert

This  is the model that I  will be writing about in my upcoming book, The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder.

 

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Stage 1: Hitting Bottom (Introducing Hope)
Stage 2: Human Magnet Syndrome Education: Breaking Free from the “Dance”
Stage 3: Withdrawing from SLDD Addiction: Battling Pathological Loneliness
Stage 4: Setting Boundaries in A Hostile Environment. Courage and Commitment
Stage 5: Maintaining Safe and Secure Boundaries. Protection, Security and Self-Care
Stage 6: Resolving / Integrating Unconscious Trauma: Healing Attachment Trauma

Stage 7: Discovering Self-Love. Building an Internal Self-Love Foundation
Stage 8: Building an External Foundation of Self-Love. Achieving Self-Love Driven Relationships.
Stage 9: Shedding Self-Love Deficit Disorder. Becoming Self-Love Abundant

Self-Love Deficit Disorder and Self-Love Abundance Pyramids.

Self-Love Deficit Disorder & Self-Love Abundance Pyramids

Re-Conceptualizing Codependency

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT

self-love deficit

 

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White layered pyramid on the white background

These pyramids represent central concepts in my upcoming book, which will be entitled, “The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder.”

The Self-Love Deficit SLDD) Pyramid graphically illustrates the multi-dimensional aspects of the problem.  As I wrote in my book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People who Hurt Us and my recent seminars, which can be found on Advanced Clinical Trainers website, SLDD is a symptom of deeper and more fundamental problems.  This is crucial to understand, because to overcome SLDD, one must not waste their time on what I call “band-aid” treatment or therapy, which spends time on the surface problems, the symptoms, and neglects to resolve the actual cause of the disorder.  All of this is explained in my “Codependency Cure: Resolving Self-Love Deficit Disorder” training, which is available on video and live in various training in the USA and abroad.

SLDD, formerly known as “codependency” is caused by attachment trauma, which creates core shame, which causes pathological loneliness, which creates a need to self-medicate, which causes Codependency Addiction, which ultimately causes the symptom of SLDD.   For a complete explanation of The Self-Love Deficit Disorder Pyramid, consider purchasing one of my seminar products:

  1. The Human Magnet Syndrome: Narcissists and Codependents (Book)
  2. Codependents and Narcissists: Understanding the Attraction (Seminar)
  3. The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder
  4. Pathological Narcissism: Who They Are and What To Do About Them
  5. The Observe Don’t Absorb Technique: Neutralizing Narcissistic Abuse.
  6. Nine Stage to Self-Love Deficit Disorder Recovery
  7. Paleopsychotherapy: Treating Trauma by Unearthing Trauma Fossils 
  8. Codependency Addiction: The Compulsive Attraction to Narcissists

 

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT
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Advanced Clinical Trainers Owner
Psychotherapist, Author & Professional Trainer
Author of The Human Magnet Syndrome

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Creator of “The Codependency Cure: Recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder” seminar (and upcoming book)

                         

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT

www.AdvancedClinicalTrainers.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

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