The Catch-22 of Gaslighting: Making the Effect the Cause

The song by The White Stripes, Effect and Cause, painfully illustrates the catch-22 trap that Pathological Narcissists ensnare their Self-Love Deficient/SLD (codependent) victims in.  In this song, the person tries to hold the gaslighter accountable, but he (or she) finds the strength to hold on to their own version of  healthy and accurate reality.   Gaslighting is used by narcissists to entrap, sometime permanently their SLD victims.   Effect and Cause The White Stripes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzWckYfZhbA I …

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Loneliness – Poem Written When 17 Years Old

Loneliness   Loneliness is a feeling, which is so hard to accept. It will gnaw at you for a lifetime No matter how hard you try to forget. The pain it causes is unbearable. Only if you knew of this pain and how it hurts. You hope someone will understand, But no one does.   All I ask for is one mere favor. Just a friend, someone who cares, someone who loves, Someone who will …

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My Birthday Promise

Exactly one year ago I, I decided to look into the mirror and courageously recognize the real man staring back at me. In a moment of brutal honesty I was absolutely shocked at what anr who I saw. This supposedly happy and exceedingly successful person looked week, defeated and forlorn. His eyes radiated sadness, loneliness and secret shame. His shameful secret carried so much toxic power that he had to bury it under mountains of …

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For Sale, A Painting from My Psychotherapy Office

SELLING MY BELOVED PAINTING from my psychotherapy office. I bought this original paining from an art gallery in Mazatlán Mexico about 8 years ago. Its a one of kind piece of art that captures the inner beauty and innocence of this indigenous Mexican little girl.  It was really love at first site when I first saw her. Her face and emotional energy captures the trauma child that wants self-love, which inspired me to write and …

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Positive Affirmations to Heal

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Codependent’s and their children quotes by Ross Rosenberg

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The True Love Poem by David Whyte

The True Love by David Whyte There’s a faith in loving fiercely the one who is rightfully yours especially if you have waited years and especially if part of you never believed you could deserve this loved and beckoning hand held out to you this way. I am thinking of faith now and the testaments of loneliness and what we feel we are worthy of in this world. Years ago in the Hebrides I remember an …

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A Codependent Cannot Be a Narcissist

(except from my book – The Human Magnet Syndrome) Over the last ten years, I have been asked more times than I can count, primarily by codependents, “Can a codependent be a narcissist?” Since these two disorders are opposite in almost every respect, it is impossible to be both at the same time. The complex psychological dynamics at play in the codependent-narcissist relationship trigger a psychologically manipulated codependent to believe their needs, requests, and desires …

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Understanding Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome: Ten Tips To Defend Against It

An Excerpt from The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) Lately, an increasing number of books, articles, blogs, YouTube videos, and social networking sites are focusing on Narcissistic AbuseSyndrome (NAS), also known as Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. Like most newly recognized and understood psychological or relational phenomena, descriptive and diagnostic data must be developed so it can be accepted in broader clinical/mental health circles. The more that is researched and written about it, the higher the probability that …

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The Most Painful of All Disorders: Borderline Personality Disorder

Excerpt from The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) Borderline Personality Disorder – or “BPD” – may be among the most stigmatized of mental disorders. Currently, there are rumblings in the mental health field about the negative implications of the term itself, as many consider it misleading and fraught with negative associations. BPD is often undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, or treated inappropriately (Porr, 2001). Clinicians may limit the number of BPD patients in their practice …

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Learn about The Codependent Narcissist Trap

The Human Magnet Syndrome – provides answers to why patient, giving and selfless individuals (codependents) are predictably attracted to self-centered, selfish and controlling partners (emotional manipulators).