The Human Magnet Syndrome
Why We Love People Who Hurt Us
This landmark book provides a fresh look at dysfunctional romantic relationships. Not only does Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT redefine and re-conceptualize “codependency” and “narcissism,” but he astutely explains why codependents and narcissists are perfectly compatible “dancing partners.” The giving, sacrificial and passive codependent perfectly matches up with the entitled, demanding and self-centered narcissists.
These perfectly matched dancers always seem to nail their dance routines, which is to be expected because they have been practicing them their whole lives. Although unhappy, codependents continue their miserably unstable and painfully neglectful relationship(s) because of their fear of deeply painful loneliness. Therefore, what started off as perfect bliss or a soul mate experience, predictably devolves into a cellmate nightmare.
I recommend ”The Human Magnet Syndrome” to those who work in social services, education, chemical dependency or the counseling fields and to the people they touch. It’s time to wake up and this brilliant book sounds the alarm we need.”
“... honed through years of professional experience, this book will help anyone understand the attractors of love and consequent suffering. I recommend it to couples who are mystified by... their pain, and to therapists whose destiny is to help them.”
“Refreshingly intuitive and innovative, Rosenberg unravels the mystery of self-sabotaging relationship patterns. A must read.”
“We've all been in situations that weren't right for us... HUMAN MAGNET SYNDROME explains why... It's truly a life-changing bible for anyone who wants to break that cycle and experience freedom from co-dependency. I've personally recommended it... because of the solid advice within it.”
“Rosenberg offers a much needed, accessible explanation about how love, sex and relationships can go awry — and what each of us can do to become more empowered and engaged in our lifelong process of building community and family.”